The case of two divorced law professors has become perhaps the most infamous domestic relations case in the state of Ohio, and now it’s making national news. As a judge pointed out last month, each is an officer of the court who should behave in a manner consistent with the proper administration of justice, yet “each has more than pushed the envelope with regard to abusing the court system,” only adding to the acrimony of their divorce, co-parenting and post-divorce litigation.
In any breakup that involves children, everyone hears the same message: don’t put your kids in the middle of your conflicts with your ex. What many people expect to happen is that they will come out of family court with a physical and legal custody order and a parenting plan -- typically one negotiated ahead of time. It seems pretty straightforward, and if everybody just sticks to the plan, there shouldn’t be much conflict, right?
Former NBA star Allen Iverson played for Denver Nuggets, the Detroit Pistons, the Memphis Grizzlies and the Philadelphia 76ers, winning many awards over the course of his career until he retired in 2010. He was also divorced that year from his wife and the mother of his five children, but it appears he won't be winning any awards for positive co-parenting this year.
A somewhat surprising group of women with national prominence has founded a new family law advocacy group called Leading Women for Shared Parenting, or LW4SP, with the goal of bringing greater gender equity to child custody and parenting time decisions in family courts. The national, invitation-only group, which includes such diverse woman as a former president of the National Organization for Women and the ultra-conservative Phyllis Schlafly, was founded last month here in Massachusetts and plans to hold its official launch on Father's Day.
Actress Denise Richards did a kind thing recently. Richards, who was married to Charlie Sheen from 2000 to 2006, has two daughters with the actor, along with a toddler of her own. Her kindness was in regards to another of Sheen's ex-wives, Brooke Mueller, who recently needed treatment of an addiction and, unfortunately, the twin boys she had with Sheen were taken by Department of Children and Family Services. Richards agreed to take in the Sheen-Mueller twins and was awarded temporary guardianship over the boys, with everyone's consent.
Divorce is a major decision with important emotional, financial and parenting aspects. Even if you're sure divorce is the right decision, you may worry that the process of getting one will be so expensive and acrimonious that it's almost worse than the status quo.
When people in Massachusetts get divorced, some may hope they never have to see their ex-spouse ever again. People with children, however, may not be so lucky, at least if they want to remain in their children's lives. The fact is that parents with children are not entirely divorcing themselves from their ex, they are merely making the transition from married couple to single co-parent.
People in Massachusetts know that divorce is probably not the ideal situation for themselves or their children. But, for many families, it's simply a fact of life and they do what they can to make the process as bearable as possible for everyone involved.
People in Massachusetts may have seen a recent news article about the pressures and hardships of dealing with an alcoholic spouse, and how these pressures can be even more pressing for married couples with children. Alcoholism can not only destroy a marriage, it can cause terrible problems for the family, especially the children. Alcoholism can also be a problem when it comes to determining child custody and visitation rights for an alcoholic parent.