You probably had to deal with a lot of issues after your Massachusetts divorce when it came to helping the kids adjust. Depending on their ages, your children may not have understood what was happening or they may have been quite upset. In time, they may have adjusted, but then along come the holidays. Getting through the first holiday season after a divorce can be tough, but there are things you can do to make it easier.
The Huffington Post suggests starting with a solid holiday plan. You have to work with your children’s other parent to create a schedule that works for everyone. Coordinating each household and extended family plans can be hard, but working it out far ahead of time can ease stress and allow the kids to adjust to any changes in the normal routine.
Another suggestion is to focus on the kids. Keeping them first and foremost in your mind will enable you to pay attention to their needs above anything else. If, for example, they want to go to grandma’s but you had cut that out of the schedule, then make adjustments so they can do what they want.
Finally, while you may want to try to keep things the same as they were, there is no hiding they are going to be different. So, instead of trying to follow old traditions that will just feel odd, create new ones. Go with the flow and create a tradition that works with the new holiday schedule and allows you to spend quality time with your children. This information is for educational purposes only and not meant as legal advice.